The knock that tears families apart: ‘They were at the door, telling me he had accessed indecent images of children’
Every month in the UK, hundreds of homes are visited by police officers dropping a bombshell: someone has been viewing images of child abuse. What happens to the families left behind?
It was an ordinary summer evening in 2016 for Emma when her ex-husband, Ben, dropped their young children back after a weekend visit at his place. The couple had been divorced for less than a year. Their split had brought with it the usual pain and sadness that comes when a long relationship ends, but things were amicable. He lived nearby in the town they had grown up in and saw the children almost daily.Emma was running a bath for the kids when she heard a knock on the door: “I thought he had forgotten something.” Instead, she was confronted by a female police officer, behind whom was her ex-husband, standing by his car, surrounded by plainclothes police.
“I immediately thought someone was dead,” Emma says. “The policewoman told me to settle the children in front of the TV and before she even had time to tell me what had happened, the senior officer came in, looked me in the eye and said: ‘I’m so sorry, life is never going to be the same again. The next few months are going to be hell.’ And then they told me they were arresting Ben for accessing indecent images of children. I felt like the world dropped away.”
HUGE difference from US.
Here, authorities actively and publicly shame perpetrators and their families for many years after they’ve been rehabilitated, exploiting their past mistakes for political gain.
UK does almost nothing like that.
Seems this man was tried and convicted right there on the scene in front of his wife. For certain, NO one can ever be innocent it appears. At least in the U.S anyway, it states “Innocent until proven guilty”.
Having said that, we all know that doesn’t seem the case. The police, the news and the public have already drawn their own conclusion as soon as the handcuffs are locked into position. “GUILTY!, Oh he must have done something, the police don’t arrest someone until they know all the facts right?”
Who cleans up the mess when, on the rare occasion, someone does get found not guilty?
Not saying what he did was right at all but at least in the UK his punishment will come to an end unlike here in the U.S.
United States is stuck in The Middle Ages; while pretending to be the freest country. Growing up my teachers would say, “ the United States needs to be more like Europe.” While my eyes rolled out of their sockets. At least Europe isn’t at War with Sex and are freer than this country.