Once Fallen: The murder of Mattieo Condoluci
Many of you are aware that there was a vigilante killing in Omaha, Nebraska this past weekend, and the murderer turned himself into the police last night.
The Omaha media, particularly the World-Herald, has all but canonized the murderer, making him a sympathetic character, while the registrant he killed was not a sympathetic character. This has led to an outpouring of support for the murderer.
But, no matter the backstory between the two individuals, the fact remains that this was an act of pre-meditated murder by someone who used registry information as a weapon to murder a registered citizen. This was not self-defense, but a cold, calculated killing.
The murderer is behind bars right now, but for how long, I don’t know.
There is a Facebook group, the same group that was stalking the registrant for years, has repackaged itself today as “Free James Fairbanks” in honor of the man they had a role in murdering (the killer has been connected with this Facebook page). Facebook has a long history of discrimination against registrants. Last year, Facebook was caught allowing threats against those accused or convicted of sex offenses.
There have also been GoFundMe pages popping up to raise money for this killer.
After spending all day with this news, I’ve settled on some ideas on how you, particularly those of you in larger, more influential groups than OnceFallen, may address this issue:
- Contact the Douglas County County Attorney’s office and request they deny bail to Fairbanks. Ask he be prosecuted for a hate crime. The vigilante group is raising funds now for this killer’s legal defense so if he gets bail, he could be free. Here’s a contact form:
https://countyattorney.douglascounty-ne.gov/contact-ciminal-division
- Report the vigilante group “Free James Fairbanks” to Facebook as a hate group. They whitewashed some threatening statements but this is the group connected to the killer:
https://www.facebook.com/groups/1710566045863512/
- Report this Change.org Petition. There is a “Report a policy violation” option but it is part of the way down the page, below petition updates.
https://www.change.org/p/donald-j-trump-pardon-james-fairbanks
- Contact GoFundMe and demand they reject ALL vigilante petitions for funds that reward criminal behavior. At last count, there were 5 separate fundraisers for James Fairbanks:
https://support.gofundme.com/hc/en-us
- I’d contact the Nebraskans Unafraid Group to see if you can help them in any way. This is a good time to attack the Nebraska registry:
https://nebraskansunafraid.org/
I have found the local Omaha World-Herald to be a less than neutral source. They are, in my opinion, very slanted in painting James Fairbanks as a sympathetic figure and seemingly promoting the vigilante group and the fundraisers.
This is a very good time to make the Nebraska legislature aware of the dangers the public registry creates. This is not the first time there was a murder in Nebraska and it won’t be the last.
Derek W. Logue of OnceFallen.com
Registered Citizen/ Civil Rights Advocate #abolishtheregistry
#1 Most of us are not allowed on facebook so that is a non starter
#2, so the guy wanted to be a hero. Not sure if he has a family but if justice is served and he gets sentenced for murder, he won’t be doing his own family any favors by leaving them to fend for themselves.
3 Although just an opinion from being in law enforcement, but a HUGE amount of law enforcement is going to feel sympathy for this killer, even if they do not claim so in public.
I use to watch in horror as fellow officers would stand around and laugh as a drug dealer lay dying. One of many reasons I left the department. Humans were only humans if they were perfect like them? Wonder what skeletons they had in their closets.
Kind of off subject but reminds me of an officer a few years ago that was hurt so badly during a traffic stop he was unable to work again. After some time not being able to come back to work, they tried to fire him with no further benefits. So they throw their own officers under the bus, another reason I left. You are one of them, until you are not. They act no better than a bunch of jealous high school cheerleaders.
Skeletons in their closet i couldn’t have said it better. How many times have we seen an article of an officer who is high an mighty when it comes to keeping RSO’s down get arrested for doing something that gets him on the registry. Some go as far as committing suicide because they know what they put us through and are not strong enough to face it themselves
You should write a book and expose all of this stuff. Just a thought.
Maestro
Not sure if your comment about writing a book was about me or not. If it was, I already have enough heat on me as it is. While I was in prison I wrote an entire movie. I sent it in and never heard anything. When I got released on probation, the entire movie ALONG with the SAME title and everything was shown in the theaters and credited to a famous actor. NO mention of me anywhere even though I still have my copyright paperwork.
I tried to hire a lawyer and showed her proof. She said I had a great case but, She would need $50,000.00 to start and $10,000.00 a month for the next 5 years to fight against the untold millions the famous actor could spend counter suing me.
In the end I decided I did not want the undo exposure about my past and just let it go. If It had not been for my past, I would have fought it.
Not going to name the movie nor the actor because my name will come up in the initial complaint against the actor and am choosing to remain behind the scenes for my families sake who are also somewhat well known. I should not have even said this much.
Writing a book isn’t going to happen even though writing and literature was my strong genre in college. I once wrote a book about my life similar to A million little things but again, decided not to expose myself and my family, MONEY is not everything. So I put my life’s work through a shredder, cried a lot, then felt 1000 times better. Both from the crying but mostly from shredding my past and giving it to God.
You could always write and publish under an assumed “artistic” name like many do and have done. Stephen King did it.
CherokeeJack,
Letting go of past dreams is not a bad thing. God has much better things to offer us than what we could possible scrape together here for ourselves. See Matthew 13:45 and you’ll understand what I mean.
Since you wrote about Mathew 13:45 I am going to share something with you all. I have a young son who is in jail now awaiting trial. My children have been my life. He is my youngest and also the most gentle spirited person one could ever meet in this world. He helped everyone. Our lives have been shattered …to the point where its almost hard to breathe because its terrifying to us what we are learning about the prisons and the registry and he is so young…and his life seems as every step will be a struggle. The only hope and peace we have gotten is from God and we are so thankful for his love. It has kept us breathing… When sometimes the next breathe seems hard.
I was really not sure a few months ago if I was going to have a breakdown ( I have always been that strong person everyone knows)… But my son had a public defender who was awful and we needed desperately to hire an attorney. I had no money and there was no way to get the down payment. That’s when I actually started losing it . ….
Now here’s what happened at that exact moment…
My son , who is in jail, suddenly go overwhelmingly tired and laid down. He fell asleep and had a dream. In this dream he found himself working on building a house with another man. He said, ” Mom, this house had all this light just shining so brightly on the inside of it when we were building it. It was so strange”. Then he said that in the dream he fell asleep…and when he woke up the house was finished and it was just beautiful. He said that the light inside that house was so bright that it was shining out on all the trees outside very very brightly and that it was truly amazing. Then he woke up from the dream. He said it was all so odd because he never remembers his dreams but that this one was so real to him that he felt it.
At the same moment that he had that dream I also received the down payment for his attorney and got a job.
To me, this dream was a God dream …a gift from God for my son and myself. It showed me that the house being built was my son and the light shining in that house was the light of God within my son shining out. The beautiful house being finished with the light inside shining out on the trees was my son with God shining out of him onto the trees which to me are people. The words he remembered from the dream are these… ” It is finished”
This has given us both much hope and has reminded us to remember to not lose our faith. You reminded me of all this with Matthew and I needed to remember that again tonight. Thank You
ANN,
THE MOST important thing for your Son is NO matter what, let him know you love him and are there for him. My Parents did not give up on me and that gave me hope and a goal. Most of the people I met in prison who felt they had no reason to live were the ones who either had no family or whose families turned their backs on them.
I adopted a LOT of guys in prison both young and old. I had little brothers, papas and everywhere in between when I was there. Encouraging them took my mind off my own doubts and fears. I wrote to a few when I got released but over time they stopped writing for one reason or another but I always was there for them as a brother.
Even though I am Pentecostal, I attended every church service I could go to from Baptist to Holy roller just to share with brothers and get away from the creeps if only for an hour or two. I was a Christian before my arrest and had my parents send me my Baptism Bible. When I got released the guards asked why I was taking my Bible as most dumped them in the trash when they got released. I said faith in God is not a switch you can turn on and off when it is convenient .
During this pandemic, none of the groups, religious or not were allowed to enter the prisons and I am sure that took a toll on many of the inmates.
Prayers for your son. I do not know his name but God does so He will know who I mean when I pray for him.
Proverbs 3:5-6
5 Trust in the Lord with all your heart; and lean not on your own understanding.
6 In all your ways acknowledge Him, and He shall direct your paths.
Jack
Ann, Jack is right on. I agree with him totally. I still write guys I met while incarcerated…they too are no longer incarcerated. My faith got me through that trial and gets me going everyday. I am thankful that my parents gave me a Christian background and were my supporters throughout my ordeal. It’s only through such times that you find out who your true friends are. I am this day blessed with my children and my many friends…Mom and Dad have gone to their reward.
And it’s pretty obvious to me that you are gifted with ability. Go for it.
I just read the article posted above,and they seem to paint the shooter as crazy, violent, and irresponsible. They even go so far as to mention the injunctions his now ex wife has against him, trips to a psychiatrist, and the fact he filed bankruptcy. But in spite of all that, the most damning thing is the quote from the victims own daughter, she basically says she’s sorry about her dad, but the shooter did everyone a favor(I don’t remember her exact words, but it basically comes to that),and that’s what everyone reading that article is going to cling to. In all honestly, I’m surprised the paper even bothered listing the victims past offenses, considering they were 26 and 13 years ago respectively. But then again, maybe I’m not that surprised….
I read the article. The article goes a long way in setting up Mr. Fairbanks insanity defense with comments from the ex-wife psychiatrist and recent trips to see one.
From Wikipedia, “The insanity defense, also known as the mental disorder defense, is an affirmative defense by excuse in a criminal case, arguing that the defendant is not responsible for their actions due to an episodic or persistent psychiatric disease at the time of the criminal act.” In other words, he just could not help himself.
From an opinion from the Nebraska Supreme Court “Cite as 303 Neb. 729” we get the following, “The insanity defense requires proof that (1) the defendant had a mental disease or defect at the time of the crime and (2) the defendant did not know or understand the nature and consequences of his or her actions or that he or she did not know the difference between right and wrong.” Mr. Fairbanks knew exactly what he was doing and He knew it was wrong.
Due to (2), insanity defense won’t be possible here.
Correct. The “uncontrollable urge” defense was pretty much eliminated from the law across the United States after the attempted assassination of President Reagan by John Hinckley.
Sent this to the DCAO:
I understand there is a lot of public discourse about this case, and even some misguided public sympathy for the defendant. In the interest of public safety, however, and as a member of the community, I urge the Douglas County Attorney’s Office to withhold bail from this individual.
Mr. Fairbanks on his own accord has confessed to this killing, which makes those of us in the community feel unsafe should he be free on bail. With nothing to lose, being free could likely result in him committing more despicable crimes such as the one to which he has confessed. Please don’t afford him that opportunity.
James
ALSO, let us hope that the victim’s death was not in vain. Not making light of what happened to him but some good could come out of it maybe, shedding some credibility to the harm the registry brings to not just us but our families as well.
This was NOT the first person ever killed or even beaten for being on the registry. I had a guy who lived next door to me who was applying for a federal law enforcement job. After he got it, he went and got copies of my ENTIRE criminal record, NOT redacted and hung it on every neighbors door.
When I complained, law enforcement and the judge DID NOTHING about it. It even exposed the alleged victim’s name and address as well.
When I got released finally from probation, I bought a shredder and got rid of all my case files other than the ruling granting me relief from probation. That was one of the best days in my life along with the day I got released from the D.O.C. The first thing I did that day was stop and get a steak on the way home. Parents paid for it LOL
Ok. I contacted Douglas County prosecutor, and Facebook’s legal department. I also contacted the nebraska Legislation’s Ombudsman. I contacted Change.org. I couldn’t reach Gofundme.
Facebook, gofundme and change make it very hard to cantact anyone (especially if you are not a member – facebook).
I also contacted nebraskansunafraid and expressed my solidarity.
Please take the time and follow the instructions in Derek Logue’s post as well as you can.
It is critical that we speak up at this time!
First, Trump will never pardon him that is a joke but again i say to all of my fellow RSO’s watch your back at every turn. If your allowed to carry a weapon of some sort legally, then do so. I would rather be judged by 12 than carried by 6.
If the Supreme Court cannot see how dangerous a registry is then why should anyone else. Stay vigilant my friends.
Just a side note that’s why they take away our guns and so on at sentencing so that we are allowed to be picked off one by one. Who if not RSO’s need to protect themselves more than anyone. Luckily not all of us lose our right to bear arms.
Apparently, Trump has no authority to pardon a State crime – only a federal crime. Maybe the Nebraska Governor has that power? I would think so. I hope he doesn’t.
Fairbanks is a turd, and I hope he gets life in prison so that he’ll have to suffer for his premeditated murder. (Smile)
Yeah, I know that revenge and mercilessness are just plain wrong, but just this once I’ll let myself SMILE!!! (I’m picturing a certain turd in prison til he dies. I hope he lives for long long time! Maybe I’ll send him a nice letter – Haha!!)
The Germans have a word for it…shadenfraud
That’s schadenfreude? I can’t spell
“quia oculo ad oculum” … be prepared or be a victim. We have talked about threats to us and our families before and this case is but another senseless and preventable loss of life. These people always seem to select the elderly as their victims because the murders are cowards and choose those who are least able to defend themselves.
To remind myself to maintain a mindset that will keep me and my family safe, I have the words “No Quarter No Mercy” on the wall of my garage. Hopefully, all of you will adopt the same mindset as this will be what protects you and your family, not law enforcement. Do whatever it takes to win the encounter should one of these cowards target you, the legal consequences you can address later as you will survive and hopefully the vigilante will not. Stay alert, stay safe and be prepared.
Legal consequences? Pretty sure there are lawful ways to defend ourselves against homicidal assailants and that every murder victim we’ve read about here did what they could to avoid dying.
Sentinel,
Please replace “vigilante” with “criminal” in your prior post, and it would be factually spot on. Anyone who targets a law-abiding individual or family doesn’t deserve to be honored a moniker such as a vigilante.
How about we replace it with “terrorist?” After all, the general definition of terrorist is someone who uses violence to promote some political objective, right?
The Media Committee is starting to work on this. I hope some other FAC members will also be writing letters or making some of the above contacts. It can really make a difference when it is not just one or two people voicing opposition.
I hope that his family file suit against Facebook!
FB is a BIG LIE as Mark Z. stole the algorithmic language that is FB…he did this one night while ‘his partners’ were out on the town having fun in Cambridge, Mass…and then, he got the heavy-duty legal ammunition, and the rest is history…
I have met the scoundrel twice and HE is a self serving idiot!….just goes to show!…..
Stay Safe and Healthy!
When o when is there a lawsuit petitioning RSO’s lives are in danger and that we are public target? Now other ex con has to face this. How many is enough to prove that? This is ridiculous.
The latest —
So far, GoFundMe has removed every fundraiser for James Fairbanks up to this point. I’m sure more will pop up though, so please keep reporting, and if you can get into GoFundMe support (not easy to do) then be sure to pressure them to remove future vigilante fundraisers.
The vigilante group has set up two new fundraisers (I changed the http to hXXP in the links so they won’t automatically turn on so it won’t be linked to this page)
Venmo hXXps://venmo.com/code?user_id=3013598599184384314
Paypal hXXps://www.paypal.me/SupportFairbanks
I have reported the PayPal account as a scam but I can find no info on how to report a Venmo account.
Those of you that have stepped up and have spoken out against this heinous murder, I commend you. Please keep the pressure on!
This is great news, Derek.
Please keep sharing updates so we can see the progress of everyone’s efforts.
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Pedophile apologists get the rope, too.
No they don’t. Get a time machine if you want to see lynchings in America. And stay there.
Some body have his IP address traced then notify the sheriff office about cyber threats.
I read it as sarcastic and facetious, expressing a (dumb) popular view rather than his own view.
“Pedophile apologist”— is that even a thing?
Just to make a note: The victim’s DAUGHTER is supportive of the victim’s MURDERER and doesn’t want him punished. That opens the door to justification of murdering EVERYONE on the registry.
Update 5/21/20, James Fairbanks was charged with 1st Degree Murder and use of deadly firearm to commit a felony.
He is held on NO BAIL.
In Nebraska, 1st Degree Murder comes with either a life sentence or a death sentence. Interestingly, the Nebraska legislature had voted to end the death penalty but the lynch mob types passed a ballot initiative to reinstate it. Now they may have unknowingly put this same guy they are now canonizing on death row.
Guess that will come out wring.
Fairbanks was denied bail. He’s not getting out.
Glad to hear that GoFundMe for Fairbanks has been taken down and no bail. It appears the only thing we can do about the Facebook page is simply report it as hate speech, but on my last check, the Facebook page has not been taken down. It makes Fairbanks look like a “victim”.
It also appears that there is no longer a way to email Facebook. They are too big to want to be bothered with individuals. So I will have a letter in the mail tomorrow to them at:
Facebook
1 Hacker Way
Menlo Park, CA 94205
FAC has a membership of approximately 2000 people who will be the ones victimized if Facebook does not take down this page. Facebook is encouraging people to become vigilantes if they do not take this page down.
A member of the Media Committee (not me) has sent an Op-Ed to the Washington Post and Orlando Sentinel concerning this matter. It would also help if some other people would contact Facebook, explaining why this page needs to be taken down. Just clicking on “report a policy violation” is probably not going to get Facebook to do anything. They need to hear from us why it is a dangerous page and likely to cause harm to other people.
Facebook, Twitter and even Instagram have taken down posts and groups of conservative opinions. If these leftist social media can suppress conservative freedom of speech (i.e. telling a liberal to “f*ck off”) as a “hate speech” then they damn sure better take down this group of hate mongers regardless of what their individual political beliefs are. Facebook needs a HUGE lawsuit. Period.
Since ‘He’ is detained and probably not going anywhere….
…..’In those Bastions of Incarceration, There are Brooms that sweep the floors…A Broom has two Ends…One End Sweeps the Floor and the Other End, Well, ‘That Handle of the Stick’ is reserved for Special People Like this Character and Epstein!’
Hey, I have an idea. And I am 100% serious here. Okay, here it is: Hopefully this murdering turd Fairbanks will get life in prison rather than the death penalty. (If he does get the death penalty, maybe his useless appeals will drag on and on for decades while he is locked down 24-7 except for 1 hour a week in the chain-link recreation cage. SMILE)
So anyway, we should all take turns writing to him over the years. We could send him particularly appetizing photographs of big juicy steak dinners with ice cold frothing mugs of beer – mmmmm mmmm gooood!
And we could also send him pictures of grassy verdant meadows with wildflowers in the springtime and white sugar sand beaches with – dare I say it? Pretty girls in bikinis that he’ll never have again – (I hope he likes hotdogs. I seems to recall that they were always giving us hotdogs in prison.)
And we can tell the turd boy how much we all miss him and wish he could be here 🙂
You know, nice letters that he’ll appreciate!
I know I will.
BRAVO BRAVO!
JJJJ,
I won’t be wasting a stamp of this useless piece of pond scum. You go right ahead. Novel idea but he would probably enjoy getting mail even if it were hate mail. Also, there are also going to be real fans of what he did writing him as well, so there is that.
From experience being locked up, there is enough reasons in there to think about “What if I made better choices” than someone writing reminding me. The other inmates were enough to make me think they would have to kill me before going back in there.
Now that is not to say I didn’t meet some really nice guys in there who had big hearts and just made some stupid choices. Everyone in there was someone’s son, father, brother, grandpa etc
The ones I despised the most were the ones whose I.D tag stated they were on their 5th or 8th prison sentence. Like really, why even get out if you are just going to go something stupid again. Just tell the judge to give you life.
I’m sending him a letter reminding him of all the things he’ll miss out on due to his poor choices. He let his family down, and he’ll have to watch his kids grow up only in pics and behind a glass barrier. Some day, he’ll be forgotten. Even if he’s king in prison, every night he’s still in prison and will wake up there tomorrow. Being locked up is terrible no matter how many prison accolades you get. He’ll eat meals not fit for rats. Most of all, he’ll be surrounded by those he hates and he can’t kill them all. He’ll be in a max camp so it will be even worse for him.
Have you all tried not fucking children? Maybe that’s a good way to not be targeted? You fuck a kid, you get your ticket punched. End of story. Fucking fucks.
You do realize that the registry is filled with people who didn’t molest anybody, right? Children themselves are on the registry (see: https://www.hrw.org/report/2013/05/01/raised-registry/irreparable-harm-placing-children-sex-offender-registries-us)
how are slot the chomos quotes allowed on the site i thought they had to be approved by FAC before being posted. The man is calling for RSO’s to be killed how does that pass your test?
If there’s no credible threat to an identifiable individual, sometimes it’s good to let these through. It’s an opportunity to educate someone who is ignorant of the issues and encourages dialogue on a topic that not everybody agrees with.
Believe me, if there was a direct threat against anybody or the comments got out of hand we wouldn’t let them through and the person’s IP address (which we log) would be forwarded to law enforcement and his ISP immediately.
There are A BUNCH of really disturbing comments from vigilantes that get filtered out, but in this case, it was on-topic with what we’re discussing in the post.
It helps us to understand just what level of ignorance we are dealing with.
Monumental ignorance………
I have to agree with FAC there is no threat directly against any person even haters have a voice in the public square. I don’t always agree with FAC but sometimes it is good to open dialog and educate people.
“we make peace with our enemies,not our friends” Tyrion Lannister Game Of Thrones
When you talk about the “opportunity to educate” ’someone like this, I am reminded of the old joke about the singing pig.
It’s not an opportunity to educate the vigilante, necessarily, but an opportunity to educate others who may have stumbled upon this forum and are still forming their views (such as whether they sympathize more with vigilantes or registrant families).
No hope
It is ONE sided
We cannot go on facebook, nextdoor or any social media where we are attacked, threatened and conspired against. But the vigilantes can come on here and harass us even though the F.A.C rules state
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HOW IS THAT comment being respectful? Have we not been abused enough by the general public without our “Safe Haven” being breached as well? I am no whimp but other than my church, this is my only other safe place. So now they can bad mouth us sites we cannot access AND ones that are for those trying to work together towards a goal, no be attacked, even if just verbally.
Cherokeejack, I look at their post from a different perspective. It lets us see just how ignorant the ‘enemy’ is. A whole section in the Orlando Sentinel ‘Letters to the Editor’ today was dedicated to a letter, and responses, I wrote on wearing a mask. The editor let me have the last word. I loved it. It gives us a good example of the agenda that the ‘mask terrorist’ are trying to confine the public with…don’t wear a mask, don’t come in the store. My position is if one is afraid to come in the store where people with no masks are, then stay home. Their fear should not control my freedom. We can see an equivalence with the registry.
Most people on the registry have never done this horrid thing that is in your mind.
Slot you prove our case beautifully on why the Registry should not be public to morons like you.
Go on make those statements…be the straw that breaks the Registry’s back.
Hey Hey, easy there, Chomo!
The way you are sounding, you are either going to be the next one to go to prison, or you are gonna end up in a mental hospital.
Listen to some facts, and calm down for a sec, ok?
According to a report by Human Rights Watch (The link is in Sandy’s posted reply) :
“The overlapping systems of sex offender registration, community notification, and residency restrictions were initially designed to help police monitor the “usual suspects”; in other words, to capture the names and addresses of previously convicted adult sex offenders on a list, which could be referred to whenever a new offense was committed. In theory, this was a well-intentioned method to protect children and communities from further instances of sexual assault.
In reality, however, this policy was based on a misconception: that those found guilty of a sex offense are likely to commit new sex offenses. Available research indicates that sex offenders, and particularly people who commit sex offenses as children, are among the least likely to reoffend.”
Dude, I went through 15 years (continuously) of therapy. It sounds like you could use some, ok?
Too bad Fairbanks didn’t get any help. He ended up murdering someone in cold blood. I bet he’s sitting there right now with some MAJOR regrets.
Think about it, ok?
I just want to let you know the mental health Board in Nebraska stated that he is a danger to society and yes my attorney has the paperwork. And I agree not everyone is a child molester on the registry, and I also agree people shouldn’t use it for that, they don’t put all the offenders information on there so yes it needs to be fixed.
Like cockroaches all the Haters coming out of the dark looking for crumbs leftover 🙂
Slot, I can tell by the language that you use that you have all the intelligence of a wet mop…not to insult wet mops. Your knowledge of the subject would not equal the knowledge of a piss ant!!
Slot maybe you should do your research and you’d realize most people on the registry didn’t rape or molest kids you can be put on the registry for urinating in public it’s always easy to judge isn’t it? But we all make mistakes as simple as clocking on the wrong thing online that someone else sent us or as simple as teens sending dirty images and videos to one another sexting it is but it also lands you on the registry and I don’t believe that someone who made a mistake and serves his time in prison should be publicly shamed for his whole life and risk being killed because of a mistake he made many years ago and has changed his life for the better we all deserve a chance and we all can change in life no one should be judged forever or lose their life because someone just wants to have an excuse to kill, they are more of a danger to society it was premeditated.
Gina, good response. I could not have been so kind.
Slot, you are an example of the ignorance that infests this nation. Your language is deplorable but can only be expected from someone of such limited intelligence. I will include you in my prayer time today.
You picked the wrong platform to bring up ‘fuck a kid’ & ‘fucking children.’
Sicko.
You assume the all registered SO’s are chomos/pedophiles?
I grew up as a kid in the Pentecostal Church. I came to know God at a young age. As I grew older I came to thinking I knew it all and no longer needed God or Christianity. Throughout my experiences in the Navy…and I had some…I did not realize that God was there for me trying to get me back on a good path in life. I was blessed and gave myself all the credit. I had a wonderful wife, great kids, and a beautiful home. Then, I suppose, God had had enough of my arrogance and showed me just how out of control I was and could be. He took my wife ‘home’ and devastated me. For four years I ‘cried in my beer’, tried to show I could survive on my own, and then let satan and passion get the best of me. I almost destroyed my family and my future. However, God had other plans. It was while I was incarcerated that I saw a whole other side of life. I was there with men who had failed in one way or another with their lives, but who I learned were good men nonetheless. My Bible came out again after many years and we taught each other about the forgiveness and plans God had for each of us. I came to know the peace that I had once known as a kid. On my knees I asked for forgiveness and got up and started life all over again. Our prayer circle became so large that we were asked to divide it in two. I am proud of my past positive achievements but I know I have future achievements yet to be attained. I wake up every morning looking forward to the day…and I’m not disappointed. I am surrounded by Christian friends and I can see how my past challenges have prepared me for the future. My family, my home, and my future has been restored. I can truly feel compassion for those who at one time I could have cared less about. What a fellowship of dedicated individuals FAC is! I was educated, now I get the opportunity to help educate others. Like they say…”If God is your co-pilot, then you are in the wrong seat”.
Reading reminded me of Isaiah 1:18
“Come now, and let us reason together, says the LORD: though your sins be as scarlet, they shall be as white as snow; though they be red like crimson, they shall be as wool.”
I have said many times that God forgives us in an instant when we come to Him in sincerity and pure of heart. Man not so much. Some it takes a while and some never forgive us and take that un-forgiveness to their graves
A lawsuit should be mounted against the state that created the Registry since it was what made it possible for Fairbanks to target his victim for murder.
After reporting the Facebook page to “free” a murderer, Fairbanks, I received a reply from Facebook telling me the page was examined and found to meet all of Facebook’s standards. I was then given some suggestions as to how I can avoid comments that are offensive to me.
I have been having trouble lately posting comments through Facebook, and I received this notification: my comments go against the community standards on spam. These were my comments to the Atlanta Constitution newspaper that prompted this notification:
I applaud Terry as a candidate working for criminal justice reform in areas where it is needed and for protecting citizens’ voting rights. There are people on the sex offender registry in all states who will always be a threat to society and need to be monitored closely. But there are thousands in Georgia, as well as Florida, who are working hard to be law-abiding citizens. These individuals get overlooked as the media and politicians only like to portray the “bad” repeat offenders. All current research is showing a re-offense rate in the single digits when all registrants are taken collectively. This does not come even close to most other crimes where the re-offense is anywhere from 60% to 80%. Society is better off with these one-time-only offenders reintegrating back into society successfully. They deserve a second chance, and that is why we are working hard at floridaactioncommittee.org to reform the registry and the draconian statues and ordinances that go with it.
In addition, Facebook told me that there has been abnormal activity in my account and made me change my password. They also did not like the fact that I set up an account through Facebook to open an account with the LA Times to post comments.
I have never cared for Facebook or trusted it.
SarahF thank you for your persistence with FB. As you say, it cannot be trusted. Yet it’s where a lot of people get their informatiin, for better or for worse. Something you post is going to get through and influence someone. Regarding the spam notification, might it have been different had you referenced Florida Action Committee rather than the link or URL, floridaactioncommittee.org ? Just a thought as I realize we are learning this as we go along.
I will give your suggestion a try. Thanks.
Yep. Facecrook is the platform of choice for the tens of millions of really, really dumb people who live in America. I’m not sure intelligent facts are ever going to affect them much but might as well state them.
Sarah, Facebook is agenda driven and not fact driven. I have nothing to do with it.
Ahh, Facecrook. What a cancer. Many people can use it for some really good things. But I feel that is maybe only 10% of its content. Other than that, Facecrook is really great at facilitating hate and a general overall decline in intelligence. It is the premier platform for scumbags.
It is ridiculous that it is legal for any government to use Facecrook. That certainly should be illegal.
I really respect your efforts and attitude, but I’d like to offer some feedback if I may.
Regarding your comments to the Atlanta Journal Constitution – you are certainly right that there are some people “who will always be a threat to society and need to be monitored closely” but I feel like you framed it in a way that implies Registries could help with that, instead of saying that Registries have no business existing for any reason.
Similarly, you said, “we are working hard at floridaactioncommittee.org to reform the registry and …”. Really? Reform? There is no reform. Obviously F.A.C. can have whatever agenda they like, and you as well, but I want no part of reform. I intend to destroy. If not the Registries, then anything associated with it in any way. Scorched earth has been working well for me personally. I’ll continue as long as the Registries exist.
EXACTLY why I am not on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, SnapChat, etc etc etc. My ex wife wrote enough about me to last a lifetime….and that was about how “sorry” I was…nothing to do with anything criminal…she just wanted me to continue forking over money since she was so lousy with money…finally stopped any and all communication and money and bingo! I was all over Facebook being accused of things that nobody probably even cared about and was not even true anyway. But she got what she wanted…..loves being a “victim”. Facebook is worthless in my opinion.
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Schwartz
I appreciate that but I have had my share of notoriety for one life time. (Not in a good way).
Plus we are ALL famous anyway, after all we have our on Bio pages on the registry. That is enough, well TOO much exposure for me than I can handle. I have twice been offered a book deal about my life story, and both times had to have my Dad come out with a Mossberg double barrel to run them off our property. Would have done it myself but we are only allowed to carry a twig for self defense.
All chimos should be held accountable by the law if not they get what they got coming. I am a sexual abuse survivor and I know first hand the pain I deal with.Nobody will ever understand this pain unless your a survivor yourself! Mattieo Condoluci got what he deserved. The judicial system should have done it YEARS ago, or castrate the chimos! FREE JAMES FAIRBANKS!!!
There are a number of survivors on this forum, and survivors are welcome here.
Yes, all who engage in sexual abuse must be held accountable. All here agree on that. But what happens AFTER they’re held accountable? That’s why FAC is here.
The James Fairbanks case involved the murder of a former serial abuser. That is an unusual case whose debate I won’t re-ignite here.
The sex offender registry mostly is a list of people who have been held accountable for one of a wide variety of past crimes. As a survivor, I think you already know that the sex offender registry has not helped you recover, has not protected you, has not protected your family. All it has provided is a kill list. But will that truly give you satisfaction?
The state has let you down. Join our movement.
Sir,
With all due respect, I offer the following:
You will never heal until you let go of your hate.
So you will stay a victim. You will wallow in your victimhood.
And if you continue with your hate, you will end up doing something incredibly stupid like Fairbanks did. Fairbanks threw away his life over a stranger, because he had so much hate in his heart.
Just like you.
First of all, I am a grown WOMAN NOT a sir, secondly, Yes, I hate all child molesters like you! Thirdly, people like you all deserve what you got coming for molesting innocent children. #FREE JAMES FAIRBANKS
In your original post you posted under the name “Survivor”. Nobody would known if you were male or female.
Clearly you didn’t read any of the responses.
James Fairbanks is a loser that deserve to rot in prison. He is an obvious danger to decent society.
You are clearly either: a heartless and evil person, or a child molester yourself. I am leaning more toward the latter.
I hope you know that Karma is real (ask Matteo Condolucci when you join him in a rather warm after life), and if you don’t receive yours in this lifetime I hope you get it ten fold in the next.
You just accused a total stranger of being a child molester. Right out of the blue. Are you just out of ideas?
You may be right that Karma is real. But Karma never really had a chance to catch up with Mattieo Condoluci, did it?Instead, a person, an individual made the choice to take his life.
We can debate whether Condoluci’s life was worth living. But the individual who made that choice for him, himself will die a forgotten man, locked up and alone.
Public registries have utterly failed to prevent child sexual abuse, and that’s as frustrating for me as it is for you. But that does not make me a child molester any more than it makes you one.
Do yourself a favor, stop accusing strangers of being child molesters— it makes you look foolish and will backfire.
Ha ha ha ha ha, you responded to Florida Action Committee. So are you saying all of them are child molesters or just the organization itself?
Yep, the karma came for genius James Fairbanks. It needs to keep being delivered to the evil, immoral “people” who think Registries are acceptable.
You just accused a total stranger of being a child molester. See, that’s your problem. You don’t even know who to hate.
I see that whoever abused you did lasting damage to you, and I’m so, so sorry.
Unfortunately, you won’t find your abuser on the FAC forum. You will need to look elsewhere.
You cry in your beer, I will drink mine. Her response is an example of the mindless stupidity we are up against.
#FJamesFairbanks
He is a criminal that deserves to rot in prison, if not worse. Obviously danger to society.
I’m curious, do you carry the same hate and vitriol for murderers that are paroled, people convicted of DUI manslaughter (or worse) or those who commit multiple drug, firearm, or other violent felonies?? Especially since all of those crimes I listed(with the exception of murder) have a much higher recidivism rate than sex offenses?
Not only a higher recidivism rate, but piles and piles of crimes are obviously more damaging and dangerous than piles and piles of “sex” crimes (for example, viewing child p*rn (not dangerous at all)).
“People” who think the Registries are fine don’t care that it is a lot more harmful to drive drunk and “accidentally” put some in a wheelchair for life than it is for someone to expose their genitals to someone. Or that it is a lot more harmful to burn someone’s home down. Or shoot a person with a gun. The list is just endless.
That is how we know that the Registries are not really for public safety, protecting children, or the rest of their lies. The Registries are for hate and $$$$$.
Will Allen, you are right on with your evaluation and facts on the subject. The anti-RSO rhetoric shows just how ignorant of the subject that they are. My ‘victim’ and I made up several years ago and she has moved to within a few miles of my home and we communicate frequently. She realizes that what I did was out of character for me and was done in a time of depression at the loss of my wife. I am not a proponent of sex offenses but in most cases they are not the end of the world…unless the ‘victim’ wants them to be. The real healer is understanding and forgiveness.
Yes, Captain Munsey.
Unfortunately, some people refuse to heal. They’d rather hold on to the pain and anger and cultivate a sense of revenge and hatred.
I don’t mean disrespect towards those who have been victimized.
But while the path forward for the offender is to understand their victim’s pain, the path forward for the victim is to understand the offender’s pain.
I guess it really comes down to empathy. This is what haters refuse to cultivate – empathy.
The former victim now becomes the victimizer and watches with glee as the offender is legislated into homelessness, their political voice is taken away, their rights to a quiet enjoyment of their lives is destroyed.
When hate prevails, the original victim and victimizer end up trading places.
When empathy prevails, then peace and love are restored (as in your case, Captain).
Also, when empathy is the rule, the victim has much less chance of growing into a victimizer, and the original victimizer usually stops their destructive behavior. The CYCLE STOPS!
(Fairbanks couldn’t understand this, and so he became a predator himself. He preyed on a person and killed him!)
Why should we not hate child predators? Are you suggesting they should be welcomed with open arms into our communities? They are a cancer that should be eradicated.
No one here is suggesting that someone preying on children should be welcome in the community.
I’m gathering from the reactions here that Mat was not the typical registrant.
Jeannette
No one says you cannot hate them. But when you take the law into your own hands, you have to answer for that. And it was not one of his victims who killed him but some random person who seemed to have no connection to his victims.
Am I saying Matt was a Saint? Heavens no. But what you are suggesting is murder is ok, as long as it is someone you don’t like? I mean if he had been hit by a car, I am sure a lot of people would be happy with that. But if Matt was your Father, even if you hated him for what he was accused of, you would demand justice for his killing.
I myself was molested as a young kid. To this day I have not told very many people. I was molested by both older girls and older boys. Do I want any of them dead? No not at all. I made my peace with God and know we will ALL be judged one day by the one and only true judge. And yes, that includes me as well.
Amen My name is Amanda Henry I am the daughter of the dead pedophile thank you for standing with me he would have never stopped
If you are advocating murder (of anyone), then you are simply a crazy person.
Case closed.
No one stands against you Amanda. What I don’t understand is how he got away with it for so long and why we think only a bullet could stop him. Are Omaha detectives really that incompetent?
Our registries are swelled with people who got caught and held to account for their first and only offense (usually not child rape), completed their court-mandated treatment and remained crime-free for the rest of their lives. I don’t know whether or how Fairbanks sensed that Mat stood out from these.
Amanda, murder is murder.
Fairbanks deserves life in prison for committing cold blooded, premeditated murder. Fairbanks even looked into killing someone else and researched if death row inmates can get commisary. Seems to me he was just a lowlife with a death wish.
I hope to make it to his sentencing so I can see him go away for what I hope is the rest of his natural life.
It depends on what you mean by a “child predator”. Most people think of the most heinous of crimes against a child repeated over and over again when this term is used. Unfortunately, our legal system classifies some individuals as a child predator who only want to protect children. A one-time offense, which often occurred many years ago, of inappropriately touching a child younger than 12, whether OVER or under their clothing for only a few seconds, can get a person the label of predator for the rest of their life in the state of Florida. Mr. Condoluci apparently was a true predator.
I know people who greatly regret their one-time offense and have spent years trying to make up to society for what they did. The Florida Legislature is throwing too many people into the classification of predator (as well as “sex offender”) for whom the term was never intended.
None of us will try to defend Mr. Condoluci for what he did. Florida Action Committee does not defend those who continue to commit sex offenses against anyone, but we know that those who have repented and are working hard at being law-abiding citizens deserve a second chance. But Florida treats these people as not even human and this needs to stop. Most people on the registry are nothing like Mr. Condoluci was — research backs up my statement.
Totally agree. Florida is too fast to destroy a life when restoration and forgiveness is what is needed. I speak from experience.
The problem is that not all people on the registry are predatory. There are many people who were arrested through internet sting operations that were barely legal. But my point is that once someone has completed their sentence, there is no need to legislate a human being into poverty, homelessness, or continuous shame.
But some of them are repeat offenders like my dad. Are you ok not know a repeat child molester lives next door to you and your kids?
Bwj
Yes and also, there are people on the registry anywhere from a homeless guy who peed behind a tree and someone saw his shlong, to violent repeat rapist who continue to be predators.
The problem is, when someone looks at the registry, most people could care less what you did, they just want to hate you and let everyone that lives in their area what a bad person you are. All that without ever meeting or talking to you face to face.
Judge by a website. This has led to me having slashed tires, my house shot at, my house broken into, my windows broken, my vehicle’s paint scratched, feces thrown at my house and once I got jumped by a group of people and nearly beaten to death. I still have a broken rib from that incident that never healed.
I hate to say it, but sometimes I feel I was safer in prison, at least I knew what to expect there.
I am also a survivor and so is my younger sister….xhildhood for us was a NIGHTMARE. Yes it changed my life and affected me for many years. I am against anyone that molests a child…..for me that means under 12 or so. That is inexcusable and I do not know the perps reasoning. But considering myself a “survivor” is just that. I am proud that I survived it and went on to lead a “normal” a life as possible. Raised 3 sons…it eventually made me who I am…I am not a violent person, would never think of molesting a child and certainly not a murderer. I am not on the registry or probation but I do live with someone who is and was incorrectly accused of something that did not happen which is why I am on here and support FAC. You should take these peoples advice and consider what you wish your life to be…..My abuser never got locked up or held accountable for what he did to us BUT karma snuck in and 5 years after I ran away from home at 14 he killed himself, suicide. Justice so to speak, I am now and never have been sorry he died but it sure helped me to move on….
Amanda, as a parent, it’s difficult for me to not worry about my own children. Your father’s charges were his to own as mine are mine. That being said, there would be some uncomfortableness about a person with multiple victims living next door, but the public and I don’t need to know a person’s past convictions. I’d feel uncomfortable with a drug addict or alcoholic in the neighborhood. I want the two guys who beat me in prison dead. I don’t plan on following through with that. Mr. Fairbanks doesn’t have the right to murder anyone. That’s not right. What your father did to you and/or anyone else is unexcusable. Whether your father could ever come to understand the heinous things he did, and work to make amends, no one will ever know.
Survivor,
I acknowledge your pain and respect your comments. I’m sorry for what happened to you and we all wish it hadn’t. I allowed your post through because it’s important to share opposing points of view and remind our readers of the victims of sexual abuse. As Jacob pointed out, FAC is not in favor of sex crimes. We agree that everyone that commits an offense should be held accountable. FAC, like you, wants to end the cycle of abuse and advocate for effective policies, not feel-good, knee-jerk, reactions that actually increase recidivism rates by destabilizing a population of persons who have paid their debt to society.
Your use of the label “chimo” creates a perception that all on the registry have molested or that all on the registry had victims who were a child. That’s not the case. The registry includes MANY who have no direct or intended victim or whose crime was not against a child. In fact, there are children on the registry! I don’t want to hijack the comments by describing all the offenses or circumstances that can land someone on the registry or mitigate any illegal activity, but to stereotype everyone on the registry is no different than holding a prejudice against any group.
Agreeing that those who offend are deserving of punishment… the question becomes ‘what happens when the punishment is over’? Knowing they will return to society, do we want them to have a successful and healthy re-integration without re-offending or do we want to make that impossible and destroy their spouse, parents, children and employers along with them?
I just want to say as the daughter of the dead pedophile, he raped me till I was 19 I relive those horrible memories every day so until you’ve lived through what i have you have no right to assume it’s just that easy to get over. Yes hat’s right I am Amanda Henry and I stand by James Fairbanks.
I am so, so sorry. The fact that we have an opinion on whether he should have been killed by a citizen vigilante, is not meant in any way to minimize the anguish that you are suffering. Your story is heartbreaking to all, and none of it ever should have happened or even thought about.
Amanda, I am sorry for what happened to you…..But the question I always ask victims, as to why they do not speak up and say something after the first time this disgusting and heinous act occurred. Why do victims allow this to happen repeatedly and so on……I do not understand why you did not contact someone to let them…
Juxtapose this:
I have 5 older sisters and growing up, none of my sisters would take crap from anyone…especially from boys…I have seen them kick them in the balls or take their beautiful nails and scratch them in the face if they fell out of line, etc……Growing up with a Father who was a Marine, I guess, taught us to stand up!
My question to you is, why didn’t you contact someone….reach out to someone to help you?!?!?
Forgiving is the hardest freakin’ thing to deal with….to this day I will never forgive the Lying Probation Officer and the Lawyer that Sold my soul, and the Judge who was a liar as well…..I understand you to a point!
But to rally on a murderer is not something to celebrate!
Truth
I was was molested as a young boy for years by both older girls and boys. I never said anything because I felt my Dad would blame me, spank me and ground me for life. I was also threatened by one of my them saying if I said anything they would kill my parents.
I once spent the night with my pastors two sons We were all around 11. One of the boys told me his male babysitter who was a man (Someone from the church) had been molesting both of them. I wanted to tell his Dad (The pastor) but the boys both made me swear not to tell.
I did not tell but have regreted that every day of my life. It still keeps me awake at night. It bothered me more that I did not tell and save them than what happened to me. Although nothing funny about what happened to me, I think it made me stronger and able to handle just about anything life throws at me.
Also, people who are molested by a parent or a family member feel guilty , sometimes think they/ we did something wrong to cause it. Also kids are afraid of their parent or family member being sent off to jail or that simply, no one will believe them even if they told.
Exactly and i did speak up and 5hey told my dad they didn’t help me at all I couldn’t got to school for a week he beat me so bad
Amanda so sorry you went through that. Sometimes I wonder how some of us made it through childhood 🙁
Child victims have complex reasons for not calling the cops on their own parents.
These are well-known, and it’s not Amanda’s job to help you understand this or to speak on behalf of other victims out there.
Putting survivors on the defensive is one reason they clam up for so long.
Agreed. We are in the process of trying to arrange a Member Call on this topic to educate all of us.
Amanda is NOT required to agree with us re her father’s death or forgiveness. STOP ARGUING WITH HER.
I welcome the opportunity to have such a member call. But if I were her, I’d be getting cold feet if I thought I had to respond to dumbass questions that begin with, “sorry you were raped, BUT…” (🤦♂️ based on an actual post on here).
The point of such a call, as you say, is to educate us all. NOT for US to educate HER, though we may reach some common ground. Do we gain more from listening to survivors, or from pressuring survivors to listen to us?
I was terrified and it started when I was 6 or 7 he would threaten to kill me I was so afraid
Amanda – we are working on putting together a forum for you to tell your story and educate us. Please look out for contact from our organization. We appreciate your bravery.
If we want survivors to share their experiences, we need to avoid arguing with them re how they’re supposed to feel about those experiences.
We agree 10000% We are welcoming Amanda’s point of view. She is the victim here.
Ok and qhat should i be looking for will it be in my email
Yes, most likely from Anita
Amanda, you will find some loving, caring people at FAC. The goal is to restore both victims and violators. Both are in need of restoration. For the violator the most difficult action to face is self forgiveness and for the victim it is the forgiveness of the violator. FAC does not support the acts of failure but does support the means of restoration. Trauma can be overcome. I know after 29 years of naval service.
Thank you I just want to educate folks, and help other victims like myself
After I was arrested in an internet sting, I went to a 12 step group to seek help and understanding for my actions. One of the first things that I learned was that it takes strength and courage to speak out. I want to thank you for your courage in coming here to make your voice heard.
Thank you I won’t be silent anymore. People need to know the truth so they know what to look for and how to protect their children. It hard and embarrassing but 8f I don’t stand up and speak who will.
Mat was a monster! I’m one of the hundreds of victims! This article is a joke ! Yall don’t know the whole story ! JAMES IS A HERO
What is the whole story? The media doesn’t seem to know about it. Making this story no more of a joke than what the rest of the media is reporting.
‘Hundreds of victims’ would place him at Larry Nassar level of evil.
Fairbanks will need those hundreds of victims to show up at his sentencing to support him. Will they do it?
I will gladly be there for him and if you want the whole story you can message me im the daughter of Mattieo Condoluci
Amanda, What you went through was awful and we all certainly understand how you must feel the way you do. Not all people on the registry are the same, for one. Secondly, targeting people for murder based on their presence on a list is what we are opposed to in this case.
Would you like to join us on a member call to have an open dialogue from a victim’s perspective? If yes, we can contact you to make the arrangements.
Also if you watch one of the YouTube videos of Amanda sharing her experience, it will absolutely tear. you. apart.
Different survivors have different reactions to their trauma. In this case, Amanda is satisfied that her assailant is dead. While I don’t advocate murder by vigilantes or anyone else, you can understand the impulse. It does not make her a crazy person, as one person commented.
Watch the video if you have the strength.
Dr. Alissa Ackerman, a survivor and treatment provider, is someone Amanda should speak with. We would like to connect them.
Thank you for your support.
I would love to join your call ❤
I will try to arrange this with our Membership Chair. We appreciate it and will be in touch.
Thank you
Thank you, Amanda, for your willingness to share with us on a call.
By “whole story”, do you mean the part where James Fairbanks researched whether he can get commissary while on death row, or planning the route to another nearby registrant to murder before settling on Mr. Condoluci? Or how he researched other vigilante THUGS before choosing to become one himself?
Fairbanks is nothing but a common killer, and he’s about to receive a killer’s due punishment. That’s no hero.
Anyone who takes a life outside the legal system is a murderer, not a hero. We, as citizens, do not have the option to decide on who should and who shouldn’t live at the hands of an ‘angry’ citizen. We left the ‘OK Coral’ behind many, many years ago.
Amen!
It’s sucks that he was, apparently, such a worthless piece of pond scum.
But that does not give ANYONE the right to kill him (unless a court if law sentences him to death).
Period.
(I am sorry that you are in pain. It grieves my heart that you are so very sore and in pain!)
I agree with you 💯 I am Amanda Henry I’m Mattieo’s daughter not only was it molestation it was rape and incest and there is no healing or forgiveness for such monsters
I have a family member that dealt with everything you did plus more. Through God, he has forgiven all those who caused such harm to him in the past and has never once used his childhood atrocities to seek revenge. Through God, he became a survivor and not a victim. Because he followed God in all of this, the blessings from above have only flourished for him.
Commit it unto God and wait. The waiting can take a long time, but you will see the blessings if you are willing to give it to God and not take matters into your own hands.
I wasn’t seeking revenge but I also didn’t cry. We all heal differently and I am an agnostic
God has gotten me through some horrific trials in life.
I understand what you are saying. My heart breaks for you. I am praying for you.
Thank you
Do you really want citizens deciding who should live and who should die? If your ordeal left you in pain you might want to try forgiveness. One of the Bible’s greatest and most prolific followers of Christ at one time advocated the arrest and murder of Christians. God can do what man cannot. Unforgiveness is a poison in the soul of the one who refuses to forgive.
No but I do want the justice system to keep these animals locked up or chemically castrate these repeat sex offenders instead of continuing to release then into society. What if it was your child 🤔
In most cases a repeat offense is not involved. All it takes to be a predator in Florida is a one time offense. That one time offense can be the result of multiple conditions leading to the offense. With a recidivism rate of 3.5%, more time and effort is needed in restoration than in the destruction of lives and families. Most registered citizens are not ‘Jack the Rippers’ hiding under the interstate overpass waiting to attack someone. It would be helpful for you to attend a FAC gathering or so and get to know the real character and positive potential registered citizens have.
If you want to ask “what ifs” then here’s one for you, Amanda, what if it was YOU on a publicly accessible public pillory? What if it was YOU who was legally restricted in where you can live and work? What if it was YOU who has to worry about some nutjob wacko like Fairbanks will choose to murder YOU to satisfy a murder boner?
He was put on that list for molesting children not me, I know better so your comment is irrelevant
Amanda
I am female and was twice a victim of sexual assault (two different perpetrators, two different situations). I also happen to be in a relationship with a man required to register. When I first started researching the sex offender registry I told this man that if I found it was useful I would have no choice but to support it. What I found was eye opening. Multiple years of peer reviewed, scientific study has shown that the registry, the way it is now, is not only ineffective at preventing sex crimes but actually makes society LESS safe.
If we took all the money we put into this one size fits all registry and instead allocated the resources where they were needed most we would see a program that treats people convicted of sex crimes according to their risk. And when I talk about risk I’m talking about risk based on scientific risk stratification, not simply the crime the person was charged with. More resources and higher levels of supervision could be allocated to those with the highest risk of reoffending while those who are at the least risk would require supervision and counseling only until they once again reach the point where they are no more risk than the average citizen. Even after doing this there would still be enough funds to allocate some to groups like Stop It Now and other organizations that help educate about the signs of sexual abuse and how to prevent it as well as victim advocate and counseling groups. I am horrified to learn what you have had to endure in your lifetime at the hands of your father. The current registry system didn’t help you or him. I want a system where less people are victimized and those that do commit these crimes are handled according to risk. The man who killed your dad didn’t know the extent of what he did to you. All he knew was there was a red dot on a map and the crime was committed against a child. I know a man who is a red dot on a map for a crime committed against a child. I know his crime was telling an inappropriate joke to another adult while a 15 year old was present, but the neighbors don’t…they just see a red dot on a map where someone lives who was convicted of lewd and lascivious against a minor. I can never advocate for vigilante crime because vigilantes aren’t privy to the details of the case. Please forgive me if I’m wrong, but I believe YOU didn’t kill your father because despite his crimes you knew murder was wrong. The man who did felt he had the right to take a life based on a little information beside a red dot on a map. I can’t advocate for a system that has been scientifically proven to be useless, regardless of how much emotion is behind it. I can and will advocate for victims/survivors/people effected by sex crimes. There’s a better way than what we are doing. I hope if you haven’t already you can find peace within yourself when it comes to the abuse you suffered. I know for me it was a long 25 year journey.
You know if you’d like to talk about it more I would absolutely love to hear your opinion I agree there are flaws with the registry but at the same time the registry helps me to protect my children
So very well said. We need more of this logical type of thinking. We have all…and I mean all…done things in life that we regret, but that doesn’t mean we will continue to do them ad infinitum. How many good lives do we waste because of false beliefs? My failure was after my wife’s death but I have been able to work hard at repair actions and have my relationship with the victim restored. I was released from probation 11 years early and have been restored to living a productive life. Murder is never a solution to life’s problems.
Has our justice system gotten to the point that when registered citizens are involved it is permissible for a citizen to be judge, jury, and executioner? What we need is a well educated/impartial judicial system, a media that reports all the truth, and politicians who do not survive by putting people into categories that they can hang their reelection on. As citizens we need to be confident that our justice system has functioned as it should and that the outcome of all legal actions are fair, equal, and designed to restore all…victims and perpetrators…to a life that positively impacts our society. When we don’t believe we have that, we have citizens justifying the ‘murder’ of other citizens who in their eyes are less than human…the law of the wild.
I completely agree with you Capt. Whether you are the perpetrator, victim or survivor. Two wrongs (ignorance & not forgiving) will never make it right. Forgiving and acceptance are two different things. Like some mentioned, as long as I don’t forgive I will only hold a harbor resentment in my heart and mind. The longer that resentment stays in my heart and mind, the more it turns into hatred. The hatred and resentment ends up controlling every aspect of my life. I experienced all this first hand as the victim, survivor and eventually became the perpetrator of the crime that was perpetrated on me many years ago. As the perpetrator of a sex crime I began to allow the view of the general public of the registry define who I was as a human being and felt that old resentment/hatred creep in. I wasn’t going to allow this take control of my life again. After the court ordered treatment was complete. It has taken several years of self sought therapy to reach this conclusion. However, this therapy was provided to me free through the VA due to my combat related PTSD diagnosis. I can give more details about this but I think my message to any reader has been portrayed. Not to get religious but I have learned to use the BIBLE (Basice Instructions Before Leaving Earth) as a good way to live. As the bible says, “Sin is Sin”. There is no Sin greater than another in God’s eyes. Jesus said, “Let those of you with no sin cast the first stone”. Before I can help my neighbor remove the plank from their eye I must remove the plank from my eye first.
Tim P, so well and truthfully stated.
Amanda:
I know your pain is real.
I thank you for being a part of the discussion.
Slot is part of the problem, not the solution.
Amanda part of what troubles me is, had that man been on a registry earlier, that still might not have protected you from him.
I don’t even know if registration would have protected his other victims, unless it was neighbor kids that he was preying on specifically.
People put themselves on the registry by committing any one of a wide variety of registerable crimes. Some of them have since lived a crime-free life in the community years after completing their court-mandated treatment. And the proportion of registrants who have been serial child molesters— ie, touched a child, got caught, then sometime later went out and did it again anyway (such as you-know-who) is a small proportion. And even those weren’t necessarily targeting neighbor kids but exploiting a position of trust. Perhaps those are the people we want the registry to identify, but we might also find that information through a criminal background check.
So part of the problem is that the registries tend to give us a false sense of security. If my neighbor, a 50-year-old dad, committed a sexual assault while in high school before turning his life around, is it appropriate for the community to be notified that he is a sex offender? I wouldn’t mind knowing, but that wouldn’t necessarily be fair to his wife and kids, plus I wouldn’t necessarily want him to know my own family’s dirty laundry, either. Meanwhile, I have to worry about my kids’ soccer coach or youth mentor who have no criminal background at all. The whole issue is an exercise in frustration, but I am grateful that you are making your voice heard on this forum.
No its not fair , But I don’t think we should get rid of the registry I think they just need to change some things
Amanda
What is your opinion on this? Someone like myself who had never even had a speeding ticket before my arrest 30 years ago. I was ina consenual relationship but she was under 18. We got caught and her parents turned me in. I plead guilty and did my time. That was 30 years ago.
I have again,not even gotten a speeding ticket since my arrest 30 years ago. Do you think I should be on the registry for my entire life, having people come to my house and beat up my son, damaging my property or possibly killing me because they want me out of the area, even though they don’t even know me?
A private registry for just the police, at least for non repeaters would be a compromise. However, the registry should not have been applied retroactively to any of us. If it had existed when I got arrested, I would have gone to trial instead of taking a plea. The prosecutor lied also, I was supposed to get five years of probation, instead the judge gave me 26 years.
Took me 10 years of appeals to get that tossed after serving 10 years which was double what I agreed to. The courts and their officers can lie and get away with it just to win.
And, why should my family be attacked (Or me for that matter) by random strangers because of something they see on a website? ALL of our info is there. Where we live, our photos, what cars we drive, and more. Plus if we work somewhere, that info is registered as well.
My opinion is this like I’ve said in other posts there are flaws with the registry and I have many friends who have had the same experience as you not all people on the registry are dangerous like my dad
Amanda:
I’ve read your posts here for the last few days. First and foremost, my deepest sympathies for what you’ve endured as a kid. As far as I’m concerned, you have free reign to hate on your dad as much as you want, to include reveling in his death if you choose.
That said, please understand that Fairbanks is no hero. He’s a lifelong underachiever (Part time waitresses at our local Huddle House make more than the 18k/year he was paid as a “paraprofessional”) who wanted a little hero worship, shown by his confessing on social media before turning himself in to law enforcement. Had Condoluci not been home that day, he would have simply gone to another one of the registrants he was researching and done exactly the same thing. Heroes do what’s right simply because it’s right, without expecting praise or adoration for doing it. Fairbanks didn’t kill Condoluci for you or anyone else. He did it to become a celebrity, nothing more. There’s nothing heroic about that.
And finally, I strongly disagree with your statement that the registry needs to be changed for all the reasons I stated in my response to Jacob below. But I do thank you for acknowledging that not all registrants are cut from the same cloth and not calling for all registrants to be gunned down like he was. I’m guessing you have registered friends which likely had a hand in that.
Amanda
Thank you for being so kind to everyone in here. Most of the bad comments we get in here, call us monsters and leave comments that we should all be killed, or at least burn in Hell, or both.
That’s because their idiots and im sorry you have to deal with that.
No your not all bad people thats why I think they need to fix the registry. Those who are deemed a danger to society by the health board are the ones who need to be on the registry not those who made 1 mistake or those who were Deceived.
You bring up an important point Amanda— only a small number of states bother conducting individual risk assessments.
You touch on a debate we have even among ourselves here: reform or eliminate?
Certain countries (and even certain US states) maintain registries that are quite a bit different from ours. They are more cost-effective, less disruptive to families and communities, but with no corresponding increase in child victimization rates.
Some here believe that, unless you believe in total abolition of all forms of sex registration, you are a nincompoop. I try to keep things evidence-based, however.
Jacob:
It’s perfectly fair to keep things evidence-based as you stated. But where is the evidence that the registry should be maintained in any form? Outside of registry offenses, can anyone find one single crime that the registry played any role whatsoever in investigating since Megan’s Law was enacted? And if there are any, what information was on the registry that couldn’t have been found in any other place or database (specifically, NCIC and state counterparts) that LE routinely consults in the course of any other investigation?
Even in cases of registrants committing another sex crime, I’ve yet to run across an instance where the registry had anything to do with the investigation or capture. Those individuals were always identified by the victim or a cold case DNA hit. In fact, registry status is never known until after arrest or identification. So how can it be said that the registry prevents repeat sex crime (its original stated purpose)?
Is LE only a reasonable compromise? They already have a crime database that includes everything the registry does and can separate sex crimes from all others should they need to. Accordingly, I would argue it is not. Beyond that, LE harassment of registrants would likely continue with little effort by LE to keep it confidential, particularly during “compliance checks.”
Though limited, my research indicates that the only use LE has for the registry is to solicit larger grants to maintain it. From the handful of jurisdictions I’ve checked, less than half of the grant is actually used for that purpose even when counting the salaries of the officers that work in that department (which it shouldn’t). Many officers will privately agree that it is useless for investigative purposes despite public claims to the contrary.
I’ve never seen a proposed registry modification that could come anywhere close to accomplishing what it supposedly would any more than a chainsaw could be modified to fix a flat tire. That’s not saying that those that don’t believe the registry should be abolished are idiots, just misguided or maybe overly optimistic.
Two reasons for them to keep the registries:
#1 Money maker
#2 Punishment and shame
Of course they are not going to admit to either of these
I believe that polities (governments) always need a boogeyman.
Sometimes it was witches or devils.
Sometimes it was Jews.
Sometimes it was foreigners.
Sometimes it was Communists or Socialists.
NOW it is “sex predators”.
(And the words “predator”, “goat”, or “pig” de-humanizes the boogeyman and enables citizens to forget that they are human, thereby making it easier to persecute – even kill – them.)
Reading this has changed my entire outlook.. I stumbled across your page while reading a Facebook post about Mr fairbanks , the person who shared the link to this page said something along the lines “this group in Florida is behind shutting down all our pages to support fairbanks ” not those exact words but I am so glad I clicked on the link and read all the way through. Though I have never or will i ever agree with what Fairbanks did. I will no longer just see a name , a red dot an automatically think the worst , or share the information publicly. I am guilty of thinking every name on that list meant the same thing. I am guilty of thinking if i receive a notification of a RSO was moving close to me , I need to protect my kids, and share the information .
I know now I was judging everyone the same and it isn’t my place to do so. I will now do my research before I share, if I even choose to share another change of address notification I get. I will encourage others to do the same. Leaving your page with a completely different outlook .
Thank you Jessi! Your comment made all my (now 18) years of advocacy worthwhile.
We are so fortunate to have an organization such as Florida Action Committee to inform, educate and take a stand for individuals who for the most part very misunderstood or misjudged. There are many similar organizations around the country that need our support. ‘Without restoration there is no justice’.