Member Submission: What would you do?

I could really use some advice. I’ve been living in a high-crime, high-poverty neighborhood ever since I started registering, more than 20 years ago. Since my house is surrounded within a mile radius by a very large number of people required to register, I’ve expected to remain at peace regarding protesters. However, today, a little black boy, probably about 10 years old, surrounded by other younger children, knocked on my door. I didn’t answer until after a second knock and a few moments later. By then, the kid had made his way back out to my front yard. When I acknowledged him, he said to me “do you wanna suck my dick?”. I asked him what he said (I really couldn’t tell), and he repeated the question. This kid looks like a real bad boy, too. I went to get my camera so I could get a short video of him and to see whether he would repeat his question to me so that I could record. While I did, I heard something hit my car. When I got outside with my camera, he had already walked off of my property to the side of my house. I sat down on my porch, freaking out, in case he returned, since I didn’t want to escalate things. He didn’t return. Now, I’m debating whether to file a report with the police. If I don’t, I may regret it later, should the kid or someone else accuse me of anything illegal. If I do, I may attract unwanted police attention and may even look suspicious, like I’m trying to cover something up. I also expect that his parents, or even he, would retaliate, should law enforcement contact his household. I still don’t have any picture or video of him. This could be something that’s just a fluke and will not happen again. However, if I was targeted because he’s aware that I’m on the registry, I’m scared. While I’m not too worried about actually being successfully prosecuted for any crime, I am very nervous about possibly getting arrested or my house being vandalized, should the kid or his friends/parents target me as a registrant. I’m only one of the few white men in my neighborhood, and for some of my neighbors, that’s enough to dislike me. I think one of the other early-teen boys down the road may have ID’d me as a registrant several months ago, using his cell phone as he passed by my house. The kids in my hood can be generally aggressive, nasty and destructive. Any advice on what to do would really help me, thanks. It’s great to have a place like FAC to turn to when I’m scared like this.

45 thoughts on “Member Submission: What would you do?

  • March 30, 2021 at 9:36 am
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    First of all, super sorry this is going on for you and that you’re stuck in the place of residence. I’m assuming you’re in FL given where you’re posting this problem and given that, certainly take it with a grain of salt.

    If you’ve been registering in this location for 20 years the police certainly know you and your patterns to a certain degree. Given that, I absolutely would report everything that happened. IMHO at the end of the day, while we certainly are carrying around the Scarlett letter for what seems to be the rest of our lives, we are NOT in the community to be abused by anyone.

    I’m not in CO, but I had a neighbor who had an axe to grind for whatever reason with the HOA, of which I’m on the board. So she was posting signs throughout the community which were very vocally outing me and my offense. A few days after this happened I received a call from the officer I reported to on a quarterly basis checking in to make sure I was o.k. and to let me know that what she was doing was NOT o.k. and if they needed to talk to her about it they would do so.

    Basically there is no upside to not reporting it as I see it. By not reporting it, it could be construed as trying to keep a secret and it could escalate meaning the first time you do report it would only be seen as the first incident vs. a pattern of behavior.

    Certainly I don’t know what your relationship is like with the reporting office where you live, so I would defer to your judgement on this, but I would encourage you to report the incident.

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  • March 30, 2021 at 9:43 am
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    If you got a peep hole on your front door, I would insist you start using it and if you should happen to see the same kid or kids, I wouldn’t open the door or even respond to him. That’s a pretty scary situation and I would just keep to myself to avoid any confrontations.

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  • March 30, 2021 at 9:45 am
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    You should protect your self, by filling a non emergency police report , which can be done online. You eill get a case number, so you have a history. Second the cop and fdle up date tgings, this time of tear too. So, yes, your right, it not a great time. Nut, the real question is are you a target, yes, the kids where a test you need to get cameras to set them up out side your place, no harm in arming your self with proof. I live in thr same kind of neighborhood and since my release in 2003, i had to think like I was back in the military, nut, now after many years, everything is alot better. But, never let your guard down period.

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    • March 30, 2021 at 10:18 am
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      This is good advise.

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  • March 30, 2021 at 9:47 am
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    The first thing I would do would be to get one at the wireless cameras instead of in the window or somewhere where your front porch could be monitored at all times.

    The second thing I will do would be to consider moving. Yes you’ve been there for a long time with no problems, however signs have changed you may be in for a continued mess there.

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  • March 30, 2021 at 9:58 am
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    I THINK IN THIS CASE BE BEST TO REPORT IT
    b4 he lies to his so called parents and flips the script on you
    cause people will take the word of a child b4 they will believe you

    use your own digression

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  • March 30, 2021 at 10:08 am
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    WOW!! I have been blessed, I have not been targeted — yet.

    I am therefore weak in how to deal with this behavior. I can sympathize and know that your dilemma is real and that you face a dangerous outcome no matter your direction in causing a resolution of this situation.

    The first thing I say to do is to remember a smart phone has one of the most reliable and available cameras. KEEP YOUR PHONE WITH YOU AT ALL TIMES.

    I believe your best recourse is to talk about this with many non-registrants as you deem appropriate. Record this event in as many public and/or private posts, blogs, letters, emails, etc., as possible in order to establish dates and your beliefs about the events of the day. Bring the matter to any group that deals with sexual abuse, I believe you are a victim of this “little boy’s” sexual abuse. It helps you to have “other than” events that occurred concurrently with the described event. Record these events with the described event throughout your recordings.

    Always remember to evaluate outside recommendations to future actions based on your own rating system - - I have NOT experienced your instant complaint; therefore, take my advise as well as others with a grain of salt...to coin a well used expression.

    God Bless, God Speed

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  • March 30, 2021 at 10:09 am
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    I would start with getting surveillance cameras. Prices have gone down. Unfortunately it is a security cost I feel us registered citizens should incur to protect ourselves due to the nature of the high profile of the registry.

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  • March 30, 2021 at 10:48 am
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    I would report it as well. If you do have to report another incident in the future and you bring up this incident, the cops are going to be curious why you didn’t report the first incident. I would report it over the phone and let them know your dilemma and that you don’t want to be labeled as a neighborhood snitch etc as well either. As that would only exacerbate the entire situation. I do agree with someone’s comment about that boy being a test. The teenager probably sent him up there to your house to try to get whatever reaction out of you that he could. It’s the law enforcement responsibility to protect us as well as the community. That’s one reason why they are often referred to as “The Thin Blue Line”. You could go in person to sheriff’s office, police station whatever has jurisdiction in your area and report this. I think that is your safest and best alternative given that you are in compliance with everything on the registry and there’s no room for them to not pick at you. I hope things turn out for the better for you. God Bless

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  • March 30, 2021 at 10:49 am
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    Thanks for your story. Whether they knew you were on the registry or not is probably irrelevant. Like FRT commented . This is similar to what happened to me in 1996 . Some kids were doing something in a vacant house next to mine . I had a dog in the back yard that was barking at them. I couldn’t see them or know what they were doing so I yelled at the dog to shut up. Which she did. But I inadvertently scared the kids. After I shut the door and heading back to the bathroom as I had just gotten out of the shower I saw the kids running back to the street from the back yard of the vacant house.
    The kids fearing they would get in trouble for what they were doing made up a story saying I was master-bating in front of a window facing the street. All lies. But when the story got to one of there parents they wouldn’t let it go till charges were filed against me. There word against mine. My attorney told me no jury is going to believe my word over these little kids. Because everyone know kids never do bad things or lie.
    I’ve now been on the registry for almost 25 yrs. thanks to these cute little innocent kids.
    I don’t have any good advice except get cameras. 25 yrs ago they weren’t so readily available. Any way you go it’s going to cost you.

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  • March 30, 2021 at 10:50 am
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    My advice:
    Call the police immediately.
    Tell them exactly what happened.
    Call local media and report the incident.
    Show up at the next neighborhood watch meeting (if there is one) and complain.
    Put up no trespassing signs on your property.
    Install good security cameras.
    Try to visit the boy’s home and talk to his patents (and/or the parents of any of the others kids you recognized).
    Just my advice. Take it or not.

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    • March 31, 2021 at 8:47 am
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      I agree with everything on your list of suggestions except reporting to the media. I used to work in broadcast, and what most media stations will do is take your story, sound compassionate, edit it to have you say what they want you to say, and then run the story on you being a registered sex offender who lives next to children.

      The media doesn’t care about anything, including the personal safety of their own employees, except 1 thing and 1 thing only – ratings and getting the story out first.

      There is a saying in the media and it’s true; if it bleeds, it leads.

      Please, don’t ever trust the media.

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      • March 31, 2021 at 10:02 am
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        WHL

        I agree 100%. I was going to respond to that part of what they wrote but got distracted. (I have major OCD)

        Even though not in the U.S, look what the media did to Princess Diana. I mean COME ON! If a British Royal cannot be protected from the media, who can?

        I saw something I wanted to share recently about this but didn’t know what post to put it in to sound relative, and now you gave me an in. The recent tornadoes that blew through the Alabama and other states caused severe damage. I saw news reporter climb to the top of someone’s damaged home, reach down and pick up a childs toy and show it to the camera(I forget what her exact comment was) and then throw the toy down amongst the debri.

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  • March 30, 2021 at 11:00 am
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    This is a major catch 22. On the one hand you would want to report it so that later if some fake claim is made, you have reported the harrassment. On the other hand, if you do, like you said, it could cause even more issues.

    I have had my windows shot out of my house three times. I have had nails put in my tires and my vehicle scratched. Dog poo thrown on my driveaway and more.

    Here is my advice that worked for me to stop all of it. I got several hight resolution cameras that also record sounds and conversations and placed them on two sides of the house. I also put up security signs and stickers notifying anyone who comes on my property that they are being filmed.

    The down side of that is, they can wear a hoodie or hide their face and the cameras are basically useless. However, in my case, after catching and reporting a few rascals to the police and them speaking to them, the incidents stopped.

    If you move, #1 you let them win and #2 What guarantee is there that you won’t have the same issues somewhere else or even worse? When I moved I had to due to financial reasons. When I refused to moved again, the neighbors moved instead. I also have a few neighbors I do chores for and they have my back.

    As an add on, not sure if you are a praying person but I am. Every night when I go to bed I thank God for another peaceful day without incidents. Also thank Him for his mercy, grace and protection over not only our house, but also the entire neighborhood. I pray as well for those who harass me that they would be blessed so much tthat that won’t have time to bother me. I never pray bad things on anyone.

    I once had a bad issue with an fellow employee who made my life a living Hell. I keep praying he would get fired but every time I reported him, he would just say I called him the N word which is a damn lie. I even offered to take a polygraph but he had to take one as well and HR said no.

    After a year of Hell I decided to try something different. Instead of praying that God would get the guy fired, I prayed “Lord let him get a fantastic job offer somewhere for him and his family to be blessed”. I kid you not, in 2 weeks after praying that daily, he got a job offer that he accepted.

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  • March 30, 2021 at 11:25 am
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    I agree with a security system or something like those Ring doorbells. The idea is to record video and sound without scaring off others.
    I think the boy was set up by friends, given the number of other kids around. Not cool that he asked such a thing; I mean: that’s something that adults wouldn’t even say to each other, let alone a kid.

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  • March 30, 2021 at 11:29 am
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    File a police report. Get cameras installed to monitor your property. WYZE Cam is an inexpensive independent security camera that is easy to set up.

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  • March 30, 2021 at 11:31 am
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    That said, EVERY registrant who can have security cameras should. Especially if you have no restrictions and can have WiFi. WyzeCams are $25-$30 each and they have 2-week cloud recording for free. The peace of mind from having these up is worth 10x what it costs in money and effort. I have more than five of them surrounding my house, capturing all angles.

    https://smile.amazon.com/Vision-Indoor-Outdoor-Camera-Assistant/dp/B08R59YH7W

    Please don’t delay. Get some cameras installed ASAP.

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  • March 30, 2021 at 11:33 am
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    I would not hesitate to report it. Most people of color would rather not have interactions with law enforcement given the perception of police/minority interactions so that is usually enough to get them to back off.

    Also, I would not only invest in security cameras, I would post warning signs and maybe even fence in the yard.

    What weapons can registrants in Floriduh have? Look into that.

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  • March 30, 2021 at 11:51 am
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    You can get a super cheap surveillance set up these days. I’d absolutely make a report. But That video proof is priceless. You can get them at Harbor Freight just to name one place super cheap..Cameras alone will stop a lot of people from doing something stupid..

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  • March 30, 2021 at 12:02 pm
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    You didn’t mention why you want to stay there? Family close by or a good job? Personally I would not stay in Florida if I were a person required to register. But if that was what you wanted I would DEFINATELY start with a camera. I have a simple one watching my front door and cars. It sends notices to my phone when activated by movement and is powered by sunlight (plenty of power in FL for that!). If you cant afford one I would even chip in or buy you one.
    I too would report it, AFTER my camera was installed. As is always the case, doing nothing tells the perpetrators it was OK to do what they did – and it’s NOT OK.
    Concerning weapons, my son was also told he couldn’t even have a hammer or baseball bat by the front door – lifetime parole – my personal favorite is a big dog, with a deep bark. Many people are scared of big dogs, especially black dogs, and there are plenty at the shelter who need homes.
    Take care and be well.

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    • March 30, 2021 at 3:43 pm
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      You are so right!! As a 95lb female required to register I got myself a large black dog. Lab/shepherd mix… 15 yrs later she’s still my best friend and my best form of protection in the physical security aspect.

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  • March 30, 2021 at 12:19 pm
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    Oh
    I forgot to add the most important thing in addition to cameras. Invest in a couple of good “No trespassing” signs. If the police are called and these trouble makers show up again, they can be arrested for Trespass after warning. I have one on the garage door, one on the front door (a smaller sticker type on door) and signs on both sides of our property.

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      • March 30, 2021 at 5:36 pm
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        An affirmative defense to trespassing (in Florida) is that LE must see the offense occur in his/her presence under Fla. Stat. § 901.15 (1) because the law as written requires that for an officer to place a person under arrest for a misdemeanor such as Trespass in a Structure or Trespass After Warning, the crime must occur in front of the officer.

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        • March 30, 2021 at 6:43 pm
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          Bob

          If someone is trespassing on your property you cannot physically detain them as a citizen because the person has to be able to have a chance to leave or you are kidnapping.

          If someone commits a robbery, break in, or other felony, you can detain and hold them until law enforcement arrives. The trespassing was not my main point. Just having the signs, cameras etc is another layer of protection. Whether it does any good depends on the bad guy and on the officers who show up.

          There are a lot of variables. For example, I gave two true stories from personal experience. One where calling the police stopped the incidents from two boys and never saw them on my street again. The other incident the kid on the motor cycle was tearing down my yard again 5 minutes after the cops left. Some people feel untouchable and invincible.

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      • March 30, 2021 at 6:28 pm
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        Bob

        I use to be a cop. I was not saying the trespass signs were your first warning, I was saying if you have the signs, then call the cops and they issue a written trespass warning, and the same people come back on your property, they can be arrested for trespass after warning and also for disobeying a direct order from law enforcement.

        Some cops are lazy and do not arrest anyone no matter they do. Some cops are aggressive and arrest someone just for looking at them funny. I was somewhere in between and always tried to hear both sides of the argument and come up with a compromise or solution if possible.

        Where I use to live the cops didn’t do anything to anyone they are lazy. Where I live now, if you fart on a friday they arrest you for disturbing the peace. And yes, a sign, a camera, locks, an alarm doesn’t or won’t stop everyone. But for those who may have a tad of common sense, maybe you can stop one or two incidents.

        I did have this one guy on a motorcycle who would drive across the sidewalk in front of my camera and flick me off everyday for hours at a time. The cops came once because another neighbor called and all they did was tell him not to ride on the sidewalk. After they left he was right back on the sidewalk.

        Thanks for the link by the way

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  • March 30, 2021 at 12:41 pm
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    I second what most have said. I most definitely would report it. As Brian said, the local police know you by now and know they don’t have problems with you. I reported a problem once in Seminole county during my 6-month checkup. I told them I was nervous to report it and the officer said not to worry, that I did the right thing. Then she said, “it’s good not to be on our watch list.” So that reinforces that they know who they need to worry about and who they don’t.

    I have a video security system at my house, and I have all possible approaches to my property covered. Once I had a problem and called the sheriff. I showed them the video from my phone and provided him a copy on a thumb drive. That resulted in the person getting arrested and me in the clear.

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    • March 30, 2021 at 3:42 pm
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      WHL

      When two 10-12 year old boys came over and started throwing rocks at my house, I stood beside my camera so it would record what I said to them. As they ran off, I watched what house they went to. When the police came, I offered to show them the video but they said “We believe you and we will take care of it”. I told them I was not pressing any charges and there was only a minor ding on my vehicle. I just want them to know I am not putting up with that crap. Obviously the parents had told them the boogy man lived in that house (my house) or something.

      I watched as the two officers in 2 seperate patrol cruisers pulled in front of the house. I saw the Mother come out and could see the kids were scared shitless. The officers were there for about 30 minutes (I was watching out the window threw a crack in the blinds). The officers left and did not come back to my house. I never had a problem with those kids again but have had a few with some other neighbors.

      Several things: Fist off, For them to be there that long, I am sure the lady engaged the officers in a discussion about “Why sex offenders have to live by me anyway?” I think when the officers told the parent I was willing to not press charges if it doesn’t happen again and that I had the boys on camera throwing the rocks and running away for evidence, the Mom probably gave them a what for once inside the house. Having said that, I do not blame the mother for telling her kids, I blame the “NON” punishment registry for all of us having to endure this crap on a daily basis (Collectively)
      We have almost no rights to privacy, protection and peace it seems.

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      • March 31, 2021 at 8:39 am
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        That’s good, it sounds like the cops took care of your situation. For us, it’s hit or miss. Some people get helped by law enforcement, and others get harassed. I’m lucky as I live in a very tough county, yet I’m almost always treated with respect by the Sheriff’s department.

        The No Trespassing signs are also a good idea. Our community placed them at the entrance to our private front patios, where the front door is. We have had a few instances where the Sheriff has come out and trespassed someone who opened the gate anyway. If nothing else, it’s one more thing to help protect you.

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  • March 30, 2021 at 1:07 pm
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    I love my Eufy video doorbell. It records with sound but the best 2 features are no cost for a service and the recordings are stored inside your home on the base unit. No cloud and no access to anyone outside

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  • March 30, 2021 at 2:27 pm
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    You should report it to the police.

    Besides the damage to your car (just the beginning I would imagine), that “kid” might tell others and once the story gets around it will be told differently and will go from: “I asked him to suck my d#ck” to “Did you hear that Mr. X sucked some young dudes d#ck” and at that point who knows who will show up and what they might do (and in their mind actually justified) based on that lie (the actual point and goal of the registry)!

    REPORT IT ASAP – DOCUMENT EVERYTHING!

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  • March 30, 2021 at 3:11 pm
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    I had some kids down the street from me when I first moved in who liked to ride their dirt bikes through my driveway and yard. Apparently they had been doing that for quite some time before I lived there and I really didn’t want to stir the pot, so when my registration officer came out I mentioned it to him and I think he sent someone down there to talk to them about how they could get in trouble for destruction of property and or trespassing. It stopped immediately. Maybe there’s some way you could move? It doesn’t seem like this is a problem that’s going to go away for you unfortunately. And if you say something it may just get worse.

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    • March 30, 2021 at 6:17 pm
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      Ben

      #1 No one should have to move

      #2 Moving ain’t easy for us (think restrictions etc ) and it ain’t cheap to move.

      #3 If he/she or anyone moves, we let the jerks win

      #4 And My favorite, if you move, how do you know things will not be as bad or worse where you move to? And you are right back where you started. Pass the gravy please.

      ON a side note, I have had several neighbors move when they realized I was not moving no matter what they did to me. I ended up being blessed with a next door neighbor that is great.

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  • March 30, 2021 at 8:36 pm
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    We’ll I’m having a issue almost like yours but different I like technology so I went and bought me a dji fpv drone, I did all what is required for me to do. So this drone does about 70 mph. Well I was flying by my home just having fun. I stopped and put it up and went about my day. I went and got my dogs and took them for a walk well I was walking and this neighbor yells at me saying we all saw you video taping our kids with your drone, your a register sex offender and if I catch you doing it again I’m going to kill you and your dogs. Well I have a short fuse and I started to argue with this lady but no I didn’t I called 911 and reported it well I was a little shook up and the dispatcher asked me have I been drinking ( which I don’t) then asked me if I have been doing drugs (which I don’t) now I just got threatened by this neighbor which I saw there was 3 other people in the house now I get told to go home and await for the cops , ok they show up now two sheriffs officers approached me and I explain to them what had happened and they say that’s some serious accusations for someone to make about me so I’m thinking hey I have a s.d. Card inside the drone, so I openly go get my Mac and start to load the video that the drone has in its memory, while I’m doing this one of the sheriffs deputies try’s to grab my Mac and tries to take it. Now as I’m showing him freely that I had no footage of me video some kids when he tried to take my Mac I tell him sir this my property and I’ll show you. He says you need to let me have it so I can check your internal drive, I said to him, I knew you all were going to pull some crap like this I call the 911 dispatcher and report that I’ve been threatened and all you all want to do is try and make something up so you can put me in jail. I asked them how come no one is going to the other person home. They say the Sargent is handling it now like I said only two cars showed up and where I live one way in and one way out and my home is on the main drag so I get to see who comes and goes. Now I asked the cops to get off my property due to them not wanting to follow up on the neighbor and as I am saying this the sheriffs deputy starts to get a attitude and I say this I gave up voluntarily video to prove that they are lying and you are wanting to get in to my laptop so I’m a smart ass at times and I do this I start to log off and restart my laptop and say to him if you can get into my laptop then go ahead and look. Well he try’s but it’s locked and Apple has the best security second to none. So I asked them so you all are not going to follow up on the neighbor? And they ignored me so I kindly ask them to leave and they do so. My point to this is if you call the cops they find out that your on the registry as soon as they show up they are going to think your guilty, and once the neighbors start it is disaster. I’ve been dealing with this for 5 yrs on the registry here in Florida cause of South Carolina which I shouldn’t be on in sc. because of Indiana released me. But that’s another story , just letting you know if you go and report that it will be hell on you as I’m dealing with.

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    • April 1, 2021 at 3:16 pm
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      Donald, your story is all over the place. The main thing I want to say is, why the hell did you even talk to the police (other than reporting the incident)?

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      • April 1, 2021 at 6:43 pm
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        Well once I reported the incident they asked me if I had any proof to say that I was not video the neighbor kids. And I showed them. Cause I knew if I didn’t my ass would of been sitting in a jail cell

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        • April 2, 2021 at 10:40 am
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          That’s the unfortunate unintended consequence of reporting an incident. The outcome completely depends on the officer who responds. I still think you did the right thing by reporting it, but it does show how we need to be prepared to protect ourselves if a bad officer responds.

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  • March 30, 2021 at 9:41 pm
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    I do not answer my door for any kids. Period. I rarely answer it for adults, unless I know them or I am expecting someone. If you’re in Florida and not on probation, you have no obligation to answer the door, be home at a specific time, etc.

    Better for you to file a police report before the kids’ parents do, with false accusations about you. When people are empowered by the government to harass and violate you, they will.

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    • March 31, 2021 at 8:31 am
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      JZ

      In my case, I did not open my door for a kid, I opened my door to the sound of things (rocks) hit our house, cars, windows, roof. When confronted they ran off but I watched to see what house they ran to. Otherwise the camera feed would be useless.

      Where I live, the police will no longer respond unless you have a suspect. You have to make an online report which does nothing except give you a report for the insurance claim if needed. In my case since I knew what house they ran to, I had suspects. The only thing I yelled at them was, the police are on the way and they were.

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  • March 30, 2021 at 11:14 pm
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    I feel for you, first thing I would do is get a Ring doorbell, the second thing I would do is get a yard Ring, that has lights,voice and a emergency siren…

    Nothing beats video, we have a ring doorbell, any one approaches it starts recording voice and live feed, any threats or damage can be sent to police by your smart cell phone, showing that you had nothing to do with any issues outside.

    you can talk to someone at your door from anywhere and its all recorded, so any intention of haveing you arrested because they said you said something to them would be false….

    I used to be the same way here, until we bought the Ring, now i know whos by our door, within 40 feet…and can talk to them and never have to open the door…

    Be Safe and Take Care !

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  • March 31, 2021 at 5:09 pm
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    I’m RayO, living in Floriduh as a Person Required to Register. I’m overwhelmed and comforted by the large number of responses to this/my issue with the neighborhood kids. FAC, more than any other group of people, reminds me that I’m not alone in this BS. Your helpful responses to my predicament made me smile for the first time in a while. So, thanks VERY much to all posters and FAC staff! This last Monday, just after 8pm, a couple of hours after the boy asked his obscene question to me, a group of kids threw something at the side of my house (maybe trying to hit my car on the carport, but no apparent damage done). So, sadly, I guess the knowledge of my registration has spread to that group of kids, at least. Since that time, nearly two whole days ago (not Lauren Book days), things have been quiet. I will set up cameras at my house before the weekend. I recorded a non-emergency, detailed statement to the sheriff’s office over the phone, also making them aware of my status as a PRR. According to the phone operator, that report will be considered inactive by law enforcement until I call back and file a new report directly with a deputy. I wanted something on record now, but want to see if the problem goes away on its own without an officer showing up and possibly insisting on roaming the neighborhood looking for the perps involved. I don’t know anything about the obscene kid or where he lives. I don’t want to care for a dog and don’t want it bothered by the kids, who routinely provoke the dogs that live next door. I may move eventually, but I also agree with CherokeeJack regarding the points he’s made. Also, my sister lives nearby, and sometimes needs my help. I’ll try to follow up with another message, should I learn anything that may be beneficial to the group, within the next couple of weeks. Isn’t it painfully ironic that the precious youth who are to be protected from me by the registry are actually the violent predators themselves? I’ll bet none of their parents are aware of my registration unless their kids told them. Thanks, again, big time!

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    • March 31, 2021 at 6:24 pm
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      And thank you for being a part of the FAC family.
      We’ve been watching the comments, allowing people to share thoughts. The cameras are a MUST. If anything they will provide the exculpatory evidence you will need should anyone make a false accusation. The moving idea is a bit much. You shouldn’t have to move from your home.

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      • March 31, 2021 at 7:58 pm
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        FAC

        Can I get an Amen !

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    • March 31, 2021 at 8:29 pm
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      Ray-O

      Glad myself and others were able to pull together and share some constructive advice. (Had to laugh at your “not Lauren Book days”) I about fell out of my chair on that one.

      I do disagree with you on the parents not knowing. Most kids I do not think could care less about the registry unless their parents tell them to “Stay away from that guy’s house”. Also, I was not really having anymore issues until the NEXTDOOR app came out(We are not allowed to join). It proactively informs people in the area about sex offenders who live close to them. I am betting that is what caused it. That is when I had my two incidents, right after they did a mass mailing to sign up for Nextdoor.

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      • April 1, 2021 at 11:26 am
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        I hate the Nextdoor group. They go out of the way to out anyone with any criminal record, not just registered citizens. I have heard nothing good about them, and that is even from non-registered citizens.

        They are pushing hard to get everyone in my neighborhood to sign up and our neighborhood has adopted their service. I haven’t had any problems as a result, but eventually, I’m sure they will find me and out me to the entire neighborhood.

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